The Key Distinction in Dining Etiquette Between Europe and the US That Puzzles Americans

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The Key Distinction in Dining Etiquette Between Europe and the US That Puzzles Americans

Europe has long exerted a strong pull on Americans, and for good reason. The storied continent across the Atlantic offers endless opportunities to wander its cobblestone streets, spelunk its heritage-rich museums, relax in its idyllic countryside, and soak up old-world vibes like in this underrated Italian city that boasts awe-inspiring historical sites. Europe offers many deep and unique charms, so it’s no wonder Americans are heading there in record numbers.



Americans also flock to Europe to dive into its extraordinary cuisine. From Parisian bistros to tapas bars in Madrid to hole-in-the-wall pizzerias in Naples, Europe offers a range of tastes and culinary adventures that are fundamental to any trip to there.

That said, sitting down for a meal in the U.S. vs. one in Europe can be very dissimilar experiences. For example, there are distinct differences between American and European steaks that may surprise some people, along with other culinary customs and quirks, like this simple dining etiquette rule in Italy.  However, one thing that will immediately stand out to most any American is portion size. Unlike in the States, bigger doesn’t necessarily mean better in Europe, and for some Americans that may take some getting used to. 



In Europe, less is more

American restaurants are notorious for their massive portions, delivering plates stacked with so much food that you may not even be able to finish it all in one sitting. The portion sizes in the U.S. are often so gargantuan that customers take the leftovers home in to-go boxes (“doggy bags” for old-school eateries). American diners often expect to be filled to the gills when they go out to eat, which means that they can be in for a rude awakening when they sit down at a restaurant across the pond.  

In Europe, the portions are usually much more moderate, even considered small by American standards. Most Europeans are used to eating less during a sitting, which may help explain their lower obesity rates when compared to the U.S. In Europe, an emphasis is placed on flavor and quality rather than quantity. Restaurants often take pride in using fresh, locally-sourced ingredients that are meant to be savored. This enriches the dining experience, and even though you may have a bit of extra room for dessert after that plate of pasta in Rome, you’ll be better for it. 

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While Europeans generally take down less food during a meal than their American counterparts, they also eat much more slowly, lingering for sometimes up to three hours at the table. In the States, the server often plops the check down as soon as the food is finished, whereas in most European countries, the table is yours until you call for the bill. You’ll rarely be rushed, so don’t be afraid to park for a long while and slowly sip your wine or coffee while the evening fades away.   

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Dave Pennells

By Dave Pennells

Dave Pennells, MS, has contributed his expertise as a career consultant and training specialist across various fields for over 15 years. At City University of Seattle, he offers personal career counseling and conducts workshops focused on practical job search techniques, resume creation, and interview skills. With a Master of Science in Counseling, Pennells specializes in career consulting, conducting career assessments, guiding career transitions, and providing outplacement services. Her professional experience spans multiple sectors, including banking, retail, airlines, non-profit organizations, and the aerospace industry. Additionally, since 2001, he has been actively involved with the Career Development Association of Australia.